Top-Notch Interviewing: How to Avoid Appearing Too Desperate

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The process of applying for jobs can be so taxing that at the end of a long day of searching, it’s pretty common to just collapse from exhaustion. With so much work involved in the process, it’s no wonder that some candidates can get a little desperate. If you feel you are in a position of desperation as you search for jobs, you don’t want this to be obvious if you are called in for an interview. So before you go in for the next one, let’s explore some ways that you can saturate your interview with self-confidence. Don’t Show Up Too Early This may seem like a strange request, but research shows that hiring managers don’t care for the job candidate who shows up for an interview an hour early. While you’re thinking that you’re showing your interest in the job, you’re actually showing the hiring manager that you’re a little desperate – or worse, don’t respect him enough to show up at the time allotted. Think about it; the hiring manager is probably a busy person with other meetings and candidates to interview. If you show up too early, he will feel obligated to work with you despite the meeting time you set up. This may not fair well for you in the long run. So to avoid this desperate interviewing behavior costing you the job, it’s better to not announce yourself until 10 minutes prior to the interview time. Try Not to Mention Your Personal Hardships Another act that shows a bit of desperation on the job candidate’s end is mentioning personal hardships in the middle of the interview. For instance, if the hiring manager asks you “Why do you want this job?” it may be tempting to tell about how you were laid off, lost your house, and now desperately need food to put on the table. It’s actually a very compelling story and one that should probably be shared with the correct party. However, that party is most likely not going to be the hiring manager. Another way to answer this question is to refrain from focusing on the negatives of the experience. While you can share that you were laid off, you can also share how you’ve grown from the experience and feel that a difficult situation such as this has left you in a great place to contribute even more now that you’re stronger. In other words, you can use this opportunity to be even more upbeat and show your resilience. End With a Firm Handshake While you want to showcase that you are happy to have been granted the interview, you also want to display confidence. And believe it or not, a sign of weakness for many lies in the handshake. If it is weak, you may too seem weak. However, if you end with a firm handshake and feel comfortable looking into the interviewer’s eyes, you will appear much more confident than you think. It’s not always easy to avoid feeling desperate when you don’t know where your next paycheck is coming from. But if you can swallow your anxiety for an hour or so while interviewing, you may alleviate the stress of the job search permanently by becoming once again employed.
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  • Kathleen Hughes
    Kathleen Hughes
    I would like to share a strange interview situation. I was contacted for an interview with a Financial Planning company for an Admin Asst. I arrived ten minutes early and checked in. Now I spoke with this person over the phone a few days earlier and she said she would like to meet with me. As I sat, waiting, she comes out and gave me the head to toe look over and asks am I so and so. I responded yes and she hurriedly said she was not feeling well and had to leave but would contact me to reschedule. I wished her well and left. Gave her a few days and following week called her office, no call back. Did it a second time, same thing. Now I drove all the way to Bellevue for a $9.hr job and I find her manner rude and unprofessional. I'm of mixed race, fairly attractive I feel and dressed very professionally. I'm interested in how YOU would view this situation.
  • Bulus Gambo
    Bulus Gambo
    Thank you for this article, it will help me a lot in my future interviews and until am employed once again.
  • David Anandzi
    David Anandzi
    This is exactly what i need for my interview Tomorrow. With this I feel hired already.You know what,I'll just print this.Thank You.
  • Upendra Topiwala
    Upendra Topiwala
    In your last paragraph about "asking for the Job", isn't that premature...?  You are jumping the gun here.
  • Alex
    Alex
    Great article, and very timely.  Looking for a job in these hard economic times is indeed a full time job in itself.  Having been downsized myself and on the job market for the last six months, these were tips I can take to heart and really use.  Thanks!
  • Wilson T. Rivera
    Wilson T. Rivera
    Thanks for writing this article I tend to show up early for these interviews thinking It will make me look responsible.
  • Valentino Martinez
    Valentino Martinez
    Let's not confuse desperate with eager.  Desperate is tense and fidgety; eager is energetic but calm and controlled; desperate is begging, e.g. "I'll do anything"; eager is passionate about customers and job performance, e.g., "I'm excited about this opportunity and look forward to hearing your decision.  I know I mesh well with a team of people who expect quality results and satisfied, loyal customers";Desperate babbles and rushes their responses with almost painful expressions; eager responds logically with an even pace and smiles a lot.Listen to questions from the interviewer, rephrase if you have to get clarity, and respond accordingly.  If you don't know something job related, admit it but then add, "I have had to adapt to past jobs that also had 'such and such' which I was unfamiliar with but mastered it fairly quickly."Above all, keep an even cadence to you voice responses; don't fold your arms and keep good eye contact by blinking and not staring.  Staring can suddenly become intense and scary.At the end of the interview, after your questions--ask for the job.  It reminds the interviewer that you're impressed with the company and the opportunity and are ready to go to work for them (you can say as much).  If you don't ask for the job, they can assume you don't want the job.
  • Darryl Phillips
    Darryl Phillips
    very valid information
  • Cathy Miller
    Cathy Miller
    Your article above was very helpful, as I believe that's the mistake I've been making while interviewing.  Your correct it's not easy going on an interview when you feel so desperate.
  • anand
    anand
    This article is really helpful during this recession period, where most of the people laid off and searching for a new job.

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