How To Leave Your Job In A Powerful Way

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Have you accepted a job offer that you are excited about, but feel a bit guilty over the fact that you are leaving? Feeling conflicted about leaving a job is normal. Even though it may not have been the right job for you anymore, you still spent time there every day. You met people you liked. You had a routine you were used to. You were in familiar surroundings. But, familiar was not enough to keep you. Maybe you were bored. Maybe you were unhappy with new policies or procedures. Maybe they gave you a boss you did not want to work for. Regardless, it didn’t feel right for you to stay there, so you searched for another job. And, you found one. Congratulations to you. Although you are ready to leave, the people you work with are probably not ready for your departure. They will be worried about how your exit will affect them. They will wonder if they will have to do more work and if they can they handle it. In addition, they don’t know what it takes to do your job. They don’t have your knowledge or expertise. Ease their transition. That’s how you will leave a job in a powerful way. Do The Following: 1. Make A List Of Everything You Do When you “really” look at the work you do on a regular basis, you will be surprised by how much you are responsible for and how many people rely on you. When you are in the midst of the day to day of a job, you don’t always recognize the difference you are making. List the work you were asked to do, as well as the additional contributions that no one noticed. This list will be what the person after you will use to ramp up quickly. 2. Train Your Replacement If possible, train someone you already work with. Give him/her the in’s and out’s of your job, as well as what they should expect and watch out for. Do your best to train your replacement right away. You’ll need as much time as possible to teach someone your work. If your company decides to advertise your position, create the job description. Help sort through resumes. Interview candidates. No one has time to look for someone to do your work. Help in any way that you can. In addition, be available for questions for a specific and agreed upon time period in case the new person needs your advice. 3. Say Good Bye To Everyone Friendships are an important part of a job. When your work is no longer enjoyable, some of the people you work with can be the reason you come into the office every day. You will miss them. In addition, there will be some people you will be happy to not see anymore. Say good bye to them too. Be the bigger person. Completion is important for both sides. You don’t want to be bad mouthed after you leave. The saying, “keep your friends close and your enemies closer” has stood the test of time for a reason. It’s true. You never know who you will meet again in the future. So, what do you say? You only have one life to live, so it might as well be a life you love! ***Deborah Brown-Volkman is the President of Surpass Your Dreams, Inc. a successful career, life, and mentor coaching company that works with Senior Executives, Vice Presidents, and Managers who are looking for new career opportunities or seek to become more productive in their current role. She is the author of “Coach Yourself To A New Career” and “How To Feel Great At Work Everyday.” Deborah can be reached at http://www.surpassyourdreams.com http://www.career-escape-program.com info@surpassyourdreams.com or at (631) 874-2877.**
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  • Paula
    Paula
    Leaving my previous job made me worried a lot because I made such wonderful friendships at my last job.  Now that I have left I plan to keep in touch with everyone from my previous job and will always look back on the great friendships I found in my former associates, I am anticipating forming relationships like these in a new job.
  • Terry
    Terry
    For Luz - before you leave you might want to take a clearer look at why you've been ignored. I work with someone right now who I think feels exactly as you do but I can tell him why he's been passed over. Even though he's been with the company for six years all he does is his job,nothing more and sometimes a lot less. In the three years that I've been with the company I've never seen him volunteer for anything and overtime is out of the question. Have you really been getting "excellent" reviews or are they just ok?  Hasn't there ever been a suggestion that you could do more? If you don't show an interest in the company why should the company show an interest in you?
  • Luz
    Luz
    I am contemplating resigning from my job because I have been ignoredfor promotions, salary increases and frankly disrespected by Administration as well as co-workers. I have been employeed for nine years at a small non-for profit organization, which I know are always struggling for funds but, new hires are being paid market salaries while I who have been faithful and have gotten excellent reviews continue to be denied an increase in salary. Is it "unprofessional" to ask to be let go in order for me to collect un-employment insurance while I search for a new job? I don't want to quit or can I afford to.
  • Penny Sederis
    Penny Sederis
    I feel better to know that there are others who have felt the same about changing jobs.  Thank you, Penny
  • Michele
    Michele
    I would add a fourth item to your list; 4. Give Thanks.  I tendered my resignation last week in order to relocate overseas with my spouse.  In addition to saying goodbye, I sent a thank-you email to my fellow coworkers, mentors and senior management.  I expressed my gratitude to the management who hired me, to my coworkers for their great commaraderie and to my mentors for their support. Many coworkers and senior management commented on what a great email I had sent, asked me to keep in touch with them, and offered to provide recommendations and job leads for me if I ever returned to the country. Giving thanks is an often overlooked gesture that has powerful effects for all.
  • Sr HR Professional
    Sr HR Professional
    This article described my exiting to a tee!  I had struggled with leaving my company for a long time, but the comfort level and security were standing in my way. I felt so empowered and relieved when I finally gave notice, however, and I can't tell you how good I feel now about doing so!  I had trouble with my Director the minute she hired a "manager" over my position without a word that this was going to happen, and this new manager didn't come from the industry, nor did she have management/people skills, so we butted heads, but in the end - when I'd made my resolve to leave - I did so with dignity and I feel that I left without burning any bridges.  You never know when you'll need these people or how they'll affect your life later on, so it's always better to leave on good terms.  And, I had an opportunity to say good-bye to all of my "good" friends and explain my decision, which enabled me to gather a network of professionals who will be supporting me in my new venture!
  • Husam El Alqamy
    Husam El Alqamy
    This article touched a cord for me because I had this article in my email while I am actually leaving one job to another and I really felt that I acted with some selfishness by leaving the reserve that I helped build from the beginnings. However, it seems that my exit strategy was much like what is described here and it worked fine for me leaving friends and no burnt bridges.
  • Denise
    Denise
    I haven't thought of  things that way before, that is saying goodbye to people that you don't get along with.   It does make sense if it ever comes to getting your job back if you get laid off in the near future.It is good to get a different perspective.  Don't burn your bridges, you never know if you ever need to get your old job back even if it on a temporary basis.
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